All bad things happen for a reason. We have all heard that one before. The reasonable person should ask... "What reason could there be for bad things to happen?". Thanks for asking...
Whether you beleive in God, Divine Intervention, fate, or simply learning from experiance, all "bad" things that happen to us provide us with an opportunity to learn, grow, and even get in touch with who we are as people. It is whether or not we are capable and willing to see the lesson or opportunity that turns a "bad" thing into a good or great thing. That, and taking responsibility for assuming ultimate control over the course and direction of your life.
This leads us to two major types of people: victims and winners.
Victims are people who do not beleive there is good in bad. They believe that bad things continue to happen to them because they are unlucky. They blame everyone else, and they justify their actions/ inactions to the umpteenth degree. Basically, victims fail to inspire, to learn, or to grow and they remain victims unless they look at their outward circumstances from the inside out. Victims become winners by asking "what can I do differently?"
Winners realize that everything happens for a reason and they actively do something about their situation. People who say "everything happens for a reason" but they wait for the situation to right itself are still victims. In "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari", Robin Sharma defines enlightened people as those people who actively engage in those tasks the rest of us procrastinate or avoid. This could be taking out the garbage, talking to your kids about sex, standing up to a bully, etc.
Winners own their problems, victims are owned by them. Winners find solutions, victims find places/ people/ venues to vent, complain or bitch. So why be a victim? Because it is easy. Because it is hard to do the right thing all the time. Because it is hard to swim upstream.
Who is a victim?
Unfortunately, probably you, at least some of the time.
What can you do to stop being a victim?
Take the hard road. Ask not "why me?" or "why now?". Ask "what now?", as in "what can I do now to improve my lot in life?" And then do it. Victims die unhappy, and their legacy is to leave their family feeling sorry for them, or learning from their mistakes. Winners die fulfilled, and their legacy is to inspire, and to leave their families, friends, and colleagues asking "how can I be like her or him?"
Stop being a victim. Be a winner. Live happy. Die happy. Inspire others. Leave a legacy. Win.