In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I chose it - I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself - I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears - I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts - I know there are aspects that I do not know - but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to puzzles and for ways to find out more about me however I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me - if later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded - I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me - I own me, and therefore I can engineer me - I am me and
I am okay
by: Virginia Satir from the book "Self-Esteem" - Celestial Arts, Berkeley, California.