Wednesday, January 24, 2007

"Just Ask!"

The simple three letter word 'Ask' is the most powerful negotiating tool you will ever have and it is the most powerful persuasion tool that you will ever have.

Why is that?

Simply because the biggest hurdle that we create comes from our own level of confidence. We create our own internal roadblocks for success in the form of self-doubt. We often convince ourselves that we won't get something because of some rationale that we make up for ourselves in our minds before we even get around to asking for it and this self-doubt makes us not ask for what we want. Why? Because no one likes rejection. It's painful.

Humans are motivated in two ways:
(1) We try to get as far away from pain as possible, and
(2) We are attracted to that which gives us pleasure.

Rejection is 'embarrassing' and it 'hurts' our ego, hence it is painful, so we try to get as far away from rejection as possible by choosing the safe route and walking the other way. We tend to justify walking away from a rejection by telling ourselves that if someone wanted us to have something, they would offer it to us. The downfall in this thinking is that we do not know why a person might not offer us something. There is a chance that they will say no, but most of the time, it is because they do not know that we wanted something to begin with.

For example, a girl may not wake up thinking about going out on a date with you. So, if you ask a girl out and she says "No," then realize that you did not have the girl before you asked her out and you don't have the girl now, so really what has changed?


You have already lived your entire life without dating this girl, so now you know how to deal with it. Simply move on to the next one and play the numbers game. That is what life is. Because if you don't ask, you will never receive. Just like if you don't shoot, you will never score. Don't fear rejection, unless you wish opportunities to float past you daily.

It is not a secret that the most successful people out there ask for things that they want to seize. When you want something, simple ask for it. If you don't ask, then you will ABSOLUTELY 100% won't receive. If you do ask, then there is at least a chance that you might receive. Either way, you stand to lose nothing by like Nike's slogan

just do it!

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