"every person is perfectly designed to get the results they are getting."
- Tim Kight
Interesting when you think about it because we spend so much time complaining about not advancing in the world and focusing on who is holding us back, when the reality is that the less amount of time you focus on changing your design the less amount of results you will get. This is not rocket science, just a brilliant way of putting your life into perspective; you are where you are at because it’s where you are designed to be. The beauty of the statement is that if you are unsatisfied about the results you are getting then you need to change the design.
Changing the design is tough because it means that we have to look at ourselves and be very critical judges. We have to not only ask, but answer hard questions about how we led ourselves into the positions we are in today. This means that we have to take full accountability for the decisions we have made, because those decisions led us to the position we are in. Whether you are the CEO of your dream company, or you are flipping burgers at a local fast food joint; the reason is because of you, not because someone held you back or had it in for you. Yes there are elements of the design that might have started you off disadvantaged, but the path you set forth came from the decisions you made. When we finally learn that we are the ones to blame, positively or negatively, for the positions we are in, then, and only then, can we make the changes in the design necessary to change our results. Yet we still resist change in ourselves because it is more difficult to accept our faults then it is to blame others for them.
Here are the most common reasons why people resist change:
1) People don't understand why the change is necessary.
2) People don't believe the "change" will work.
3) People believe the old way is better.
4) People are afraid that they themselves might fail.
5) People don't trust the motives of the change agent.
6) There is evidence that the old way works.
7) There is little or no evidence that the new way will work.
8) The pain associated with changing is greater than the pain of
remaining the same.
Adapted from "Beyond Change Management," a course offered by Boise State University's Center for Professional Development, in cooperation with Bryan Yager.
It is now up to you to evaluate where you are and what results you have accomplished, find where your resistance to change is, and then gather the courage to make the necessary changes that will deliver the results that you want. It is not an easy process, nor is it meant to be, it is a challenge. By taking the challenge you are accepting the opportunity to fail, but who knows, you might find yourself there already.
"The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance."
Make yourself aware of your design and then accept that you can get better results.