Friday, February 22, 2008

Boredom

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity”. –Ellen Parr

One lesson we all should have learned from our youth is that there is nothing positive that comes out of boredom. Almost every negative episode while growing up can in some way be directly linked to our inability to self stimulate, which leads to our curiosity, which leads to actions in search for the rush we are lacking.

As young children, when we still haven’t established right from wrong, our curiosity leads to an action with consequences we might not expect, and trouble ensues. As teens our boredom facilitates experimentation at a time we think we are invincible, and our use of drugs and alcohol, or taking inherently risky chances is initiated. During these years we are learning about ways to cure our boredoms, to fill our curiosities, and to figure out what behaviors produce positive and negative results in our lives.

As adults we hopefully have learned positive ways to self stimulate and can maintain high levels of interest, therefore enhancing our morale, performance, and quality of work. Unfortunately this is not always the case and we fall victim to the traps of boredom.

The effect of boredom in our lives is our inability to stimulate our physical, emotional, and social selves. We sit in dead end jobs, let our health slip away, and stay in relationships that have no redeeming value, simply for the reason that we have lost the ability to act on our curiosities. We have gone from the action based mentality we had in our youth, be it positive or negative, to a self created victim mentality in adulthood, which has no positive value to our self.

Our childhood is our arena of learning and practice for our adult lives. We learn that with boredom comes negative effects, yet confuse boredom and comfort in our adult lives until we have sacrificed our happiness and willingness to be curious.

In adulthood curiosity does not have to lead to the negative results it led to in our childhood for one simple reason; we should be able to differentiate good curiosity from bad curiosity. In fact, our curiosity as adults will facilitate the taking of controlled chances, where the rewards are just a probable as the failures.

If the cure for boredom is curiosity, then we must trust ourselves as adults to be curious, to take risks, and to expect more from ourselves. If we are unable to act on our curiosity constructively, then we must be able to accept the fate of boredom in which we have created. Unlike our childhood, as adults we have to accept this without excuses.

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