You know those people who all they do is think about themselves no matter what the situation? Ever ask yourself why they are like that and what motivates them to be so selfish? Or how about how they can't realize there are actually people in this world other then themselves?
Now, before I start, I have to come clean and say that this is an area of my personality that I have been called out for numerous times in the past as well as something I have identified as a negative trait that I am continually working on and paying attention to. I guess that is why I am so aware of when others are acting selfish or drawing attention to themselves, whether in a quiet, discreet or an out there, rediculus manner.
Well, I have to share this story with you from this past weekend. I was at one of my best friend's weddings and involved in the wedding party as a groomsman. This meant I got to witness a lot of the internal ongoings of the wedding over the day.
Now, the wedding was beautiful and for everyone on the outside, looked like the perfect event. However, being on the other side, there were unfortunately some bumps in the road due to the "me" factor. On one of the biggest days in a girls life, her wedding day, she asks her 3 sisters to be her bridesmaids (which is a big honor, and for those of you who have never been a part of a wedding party, a very significant responsibility - and on that day, it is all about the bride...period.)
Here were a few of my observations:
- One sister texting her friends at the head table while her sister is having the first dance with her new husband (and the glares that followed)
- Or one missing the speeches because she was fighting with her boyfriend
- Or the single other one out there bouncing off all the guys all night and not paying any due attention to her newly married sister
I thought about this as I watched it happen all night and finally couldn't keep my mouth shut and spoke up to each of them. Was it the right move? Well, not for my popularity among the sisters, but it did shock them into taking the focus off themselves and back onto their newly married sister.
So my question was what actually made them lose focus and act that way? Was it a lack of actually caring? Hard to believe that one. So what was it?
In analyzing this some more, I think it really comes down to the fact, the attention wasn't on them and it was hard to take all day so they went searching for some equaling the "me" factor.