Friday, July 11, 2008

Friends & Enemies

‘There are only two people who can tell you the truth about yourself-an enemy who has lost his temper and a friend who loves you dearly.” –Antisthenes

There are two things every person needs in life to succeed; friends and enemies. Why, because in friendship we gain trust and support, while in enemies we gain a drive. I know I am consistently saying that motivation needs to come from within, which is true, but having a force that pushes you beyond your perceived breaking point is a great asset as well. Your friends will be ones who will catch you when you fall and your enemies will be the ones who allow you to get the fruit at the end of the branch.

Friendship is essential in success for two reasons; 1) because nothing is worth celebrating if you have to celebrate it alone, and 2) without honest encouragement and support you will have a much harder time achieving. Your creation of solid friendships is what has been proven to make you happier, healthier, and live longer. These are the people with whom you confide in with your most intimate thoughts, fears, and actions. These are the people who are at your side when you need them most and are willing to kick you in the rear when you succumb to a victim mentality. True friends are the ones who deserve partial credit for our accomplishments, but are unwilling to accept such accolades because they truly understand the sacrifices it took for you to succeed.

Despite the notion that we all need to get along, equal in importance to friendship is the creation of true enemies. These are not the enemies that you want to see harm done to, or the enemies you wish failure upon, but are the enemies whose sole purpose in life is to make you want success more than you would want it on your own. Enemies are essential in success for one simple reason; they exist and are trying to achieve the same thing as you. A true enemy gives you the opportunity to create great thoughts, they give you a chance to compete, and they allow you to sharpen you mind and generate a greater focus. Enemies also deserve partial credit for our accomplishments, but are unwilling to accept such accolades because you succeeded before they did.

Both friends and enemies are relationships based on dependence. No matter how empowered we believe we are, we are nothing without the formation of these two entities. In success we must depend on friendships as much as enemies because both will present us not only with the opportunity to succeed, but with the opportunity to really live our best lives as well. Ultimately our success depends mostly on the one we can control, which is ourselves, but there are external components in the equation of success as well. It is our ability to use these relationships to our advantage that will lead to our ability to succeed.

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