Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Expect the Unexpected

Home is where the heart is.

That's right. The place where everything is easy. Just drop back home after a hard days work and relax.

It seems that we have all come to believe this myth like so many others. The more we see it in the movies the more we believe that the home is just a place of sanctuary.

Home is more than that. The relationships of a family have been researched and examined more than any other style of relationship. Interaction are complex and not necessarily simple. Home can be quite stressful and judging by the 56% divorce rate not necessarily where the heart is.

So where does this belief that coming home from work and having a drink in an environment that is peaceful stem from and why does it exist?

Like so many other areas of our life, it is governed by our preconceived notions of how we WANT things to be. We don't look at what things are or will be but we expect them to be a certain way. We hope them into existence instead of seeing the world as it is.

Home, for a family, is a place where relationships need work, effort and each person must communicate. It isn't a country club and nor should it be.

Expectations are killing our families and it is time for us to look at our own individual role in how we can better serve each other...not the other way around.

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