One word - FEAR.
Fear can destroy our psychology and immobilize us from taking action. All of us experience fear in some context during our lives whether that be:
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of failure
- Fear of success
- Fear of love
- Fear of being alone
- Fear of the unknown
In fact, most of us feel a combination of these fears over the course of our lives. Fear is hard-wired into every one of us at different levels and for different reasons and nothing we do will ever take fear away from us. The secret is learning how to use fear instead of letting it use you!
While we all experience countless variations - there are two primary fears that all human beings have:
1. The fear that we are not good enough
Have you ever experienced that nervous feeling before getting up to speak in front of a large group where the outcome of that speech determined your success or failure? What happened? Did you step up and deliver a knock out presentation or fall flat on your feet? In either case - you would have grown personally based on what you learned in the process because of taking on this fear head on.
2. The fear that we won't be loved
Have you ever been in a situation with a significant other or family member where you found yourself going out of your way over and over again to please that other person in hopes they reciprocated and showed you love? It happens all the time in relationships and is a determining factor in many relationship successes and failures. Everyone wants to be loved by someone - it gives us a purpose and comfort that we are not alone.
The biggest thing you can take from this is that the more you combat your fears head on, the more you will overcome them and in turn continue to grow within the circle of life.