Friday, October 30, 2009

Trial and Error


My sister has taken pictures of tourists on Virginia Beach, sold jet skis in Miami, worked in a café in France in exchange for French lessons, learned massage in Thailand, and has worked as an extra on a movie set in Italy.

She has studied Criminology, looked into getting her real estate license, decided she wanted to be a Model, then applied for Journalism school, and most recently has figured out that she would like to write documentaries, and design eco-friendly clothing. And, each time she believes she has found what she wants be ‘when she grows up.’

Growing up everyone else is in control of your life, your parents, your teachers, your coaches, etc., and they all demand and expect something from you. Then you hit a certain age, and are left to our own devices with the expectation that you will be able to take charge of our life and lead it in the direction you want to go. But which way is that? How do you know where you want to go when everyone else has been taking you there?

In my sister’s case, she has decided to visit a Life Coach to help her make order out of her life and find direction. I think that the most important word in the previous sentence was ‘decided.’ You need to make a decision about where you want to go, it may not be the right one and may lead you farther away from whatever it is you are looking for, but somewhere along the line you need to take control back over your life and start making the calls, good or bad.

It’s through this process that we are able to learn about ourselves – what we like, don’t like, what we can, and can’t live with. Life is trial and error and the only way to learn is to make a decision.

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