Friday, November 20, 2009

You Have to Name It to Claim It


Get clear about what you want, and take your turn. Common sense might suggest that one of the easiest steps in getting what you want from life is to ‘place your order’: to stand up and declare what it is that you desire. Nothing could be farther from the truth. If you cannot name, and name with great specificity, what it is that you want, then you will never be able to step up and claim it.

Most people do not know how to describe what they want, because they don’t have a clue what it really is. Indecision creates inaction. Inaction leads to results that you do not want.

Not knowing exactly what you want is a major problem for a number of reasons. We live in a world where the most you will ever get is what you ask for. That’s true about your major goals as well as your day to day desires.

Since naming what you truly want is so basic to having it, you must proceed with great care in deciding the answer. Being wrong or misguided about what you want is even worse than not knowing at all. You must also pay attention to the time element associated with what you really want. Opportunities for getting what you want are time limited. They have a shelf life that can and will expire.

By being specific and defining your goal in as many different ways as you can, you’ll develop a more intimate understanding of what you want. As a result, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You’ll be more likely to recognize your goal when you get there, since you’ll have so many criteria by which to measure it.

Claiming it takes resolve and commitment. You must be willing to step up when the time is right and claim what you want and deserve. Understand that this is a competitive world in which we live. There are a lot of people who are ready, willing, and able to take from you that which is rightfully yours. Why would you want to make it easier for them? Why leave your windows open for thieves? Once you have strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to say, ‘It is my time, it is my turn; this is for me, and I claim it, here and now.’

Claim what it is that you want and deserve, because no one will do it for you. No one can step up and claim your place for you. If you don’t then it doesn’t get done. Make the resolve, now, that your wants are worth having and that when the time comes, you will claim you’re right to have them.

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