If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.
~ Anna Quindlen
What does success mean to you?
I am sure that everyone answered that question differently and if asked whether or not someone you knew was successful, you would probably use your definition to answer the question and therein lies the problem. Everyone has a different definition of success and what it means to them.
We run into problems when we try to apply our definition to those around us. When we use it to judge others by our standards, rather than their own. Who are we to decide what should be important to someone else, and judge them when they don't measure up.
It's easy to forget that not everyone wants what we want and to get frustrated with trying to understand why not, especially if we believe it's in their best interest. But sometimes we need to stop and ask ourselves if we are we trying to fit someone else into our definition or supporting them in discovering theirs.