There is a lot of negativity out there, a lot of reasons to get frustrated and be defeated. There will always be a lot of people telling you that you 'shouldn’t' or 'can’t' or 'won’t'. If you haven’t been told this before, let me be the first: Life is hard and life is not fair and that is not going to change. Chances are that, many times, you will have to walk uphill both ways in the snow and, when you do have to, you will have forgotten your jacket or your boots or your gloves.
The real question here is, with all these challengers and naysayers singing their songs, why are you jumping on the bandwagon with people who are trying to kick your ass? If anyone is going to help you out, tell you that you can or should and be there to appease your frustrations, it is should be you. This process of positive encouragement and self-talk is like any learned skill. You need to practice.
The human body works at adapting to things all the time. If you lift a weight again and again, the muscle you are using gets stronger. This principal also works with the mind. Telling yourself you can, even if you don’t believe it at first, will have a slow and steady positive effect. It can seem really pointless. You won’t necessarily notice immediate changes, but, slowly over time, your thinking will change. If you keep telling yourself that you can, eventually you will believe it. This is not a magical reaction; this is a physiological response.
Practice makes perfect because your body will learn to respond differently to situations. Your mind can also learn to respond differently. Every time you think, “I can’t”, consciously think “I can, I can, I can”. Slowly, when your immediate reaction is “I can’t”, you will gradually start to think, “I can, I can, I can”. This is a very commonly used psychological training tool. It is practicing positive thoughts so that you get better at them until eventually they become the conditioned response.
When the world is trying to kick your ass, stand up and say, “I CAN, I WILL, I SHOULD, and - WATCH ME - HERE I GO!”.