Thursday, May 09, 2013


We have all had them. We know what it feels like to want something, work for something, and then have it taken away or delayed. It is frustrating, angering, disappointing, and can be very upsetting. Setbacks can happen in almost any aspect of our lives.  The good news, though, is that it's not the trials and tribulations of life that shape who we are but how we respond to them. Setback responses are really what determines who we are.

Perspective becomes an essential part of the setback process. The first question to ask ourselves is “does this setback change my life”, not in the short term but in the long term. If the answer is “no”, then it is immediately time to get over it and move on. If the answer is “yes”, then it is immediately time to get over it and MOVE ON. If the setback is a matter of life and death, then, of course, it is time to reflect and evaluate, but if it is, as it is in most cases, simply a matter of frustration and temporary pain or irritation, then why dwell? 

What good does frustration and anger do for us? Does it get us to our ultimate goal or get us beyond our momentary reaction to a situation? NO! Push beyond your knee jerk reactions and create a plan to accomplish what you set out to do. Change your focus to accommodate the setback or side-step it and get to work.

If you thought that life was going to be a series of easy task and only small hurdles that would propel you to becoming your wealthy and omnipotent self, then you were deeply confused or misled. Whoever told you it was going to be easy or fair owes you an apology.

Setbacks can frustrate and anger you, but, ultimately, you decide how you will respond. You are responsible for your own thoughts and emotions. A malevolent force does not thrust them upon you and they can, in the long run, act to serve you if you let them. Using your setbacks to get stronger, faster, tougher, or whatever is going to serve you best. Bottom line is that there is no victory without challenge and adversity and there really is NO EXCUSE that will magically fix your problems.

Get back up, dust yourself off, come up with a plan, and get after it. 

~ Yoshia

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