Last week a friend says you’re not long with people are you? to which I immediately answered - nope. Call it harsh, sociopathic, tie it to a past life event, or slip in the synonyms honest & efficient, it doesn’t really matter to me.
It is a personal belief that the point in time when someone’s contribution no longer benefits myself in a positive, progressive manner OR I no longer benefit them in a positive, progressive manner – it’s time to move along. In theory, it’s the same practice a purging mementos & keepsakes that no longer provide the emotional or practical value. Chances are you either are or aren’t of this personality type.
Challenge for some is theory doesn’t factor in emotion. More often than not, transitions are accompanied by emotion. Too much emotion. As I’ve aged I’ve learned a few things about carrying that emotion and;
- better appreciate the value of the past experiences vs. the mindset of not all or nothing.
- realize not all relationships in life will be and/or need to be forever.
- do not invest energy on things that are out of my control.
The point here is threefold;
- don’t waste energy begrudging past relationships that are no more. Appreciate the positives, take the lessons and reflect on value of them as you carry on.
- understand you don’t have or need multiple BFF’s in your life FOREVER AND EVER. As long as you have 1 (starting with yourself), you’ll be just fine. From there, everything else is a bonus.
- as you age, the people who you keep company with is going to change. Embrace that change as both the person on the changing and changed end of the dynamic and seek to understand why.