Wednesday, August 06, 2014
Why we think we're owed something.
Ever wonder why so many of us live in this perpetual state of naivety constantly believing we're owed something? 'Ya... she doesn't talk to me anymore', 'I've been working there for five years now', 'I deserve a break' and the list goes on.
I think the reason is threefold; a) our self worth has been greatly over inflated & over exaggerated b) it's a byproduct of compensating (and over compensating) what would otherwise be considered routine behaviors & c) we lack the practice hence skill of taking personal accountability.
The reality of life's law suggests many of us are getting what we're giving and reaping what we've sewn. If our phones have stopped ringing, it's because we have stopped calling. If our flame has dwindled, it's because we're no stoking the fire and the cause / effect list goes on should we be mature & honest enough to own it.
One of the better books I've read was written by John G Miller called QBQ; the Question behind the Question. It was a helpful resource in re-framing many of the victim questions I was asking myself. At the end of the day all of my life's magic and mayhem start & finish with one person; me.
Don't blame. Own S!!t